8 Ways To Have The Best 2014 Possible

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1. Begin to eliminate all of the negativity from your life.

People come in our lives to serve a certain purpose and teach us a lesson, but sometimes we allow those people to stay in our lives far longer than we should. If anyone in your life brings you down more than they make you laugh or smile, or if you treat them like a priority when you are only an option to them–let them go. You can be cordial but they don’t have to be a front-runner in your life.

2. If you want to feel stronger, find your personal best way to do so.

Realize that the gym is not always the place for everyone to do this (for example, you’d need to dangle a cookie in front of the treadmill for me to get up and want to run in the morning). Taking a dance class at…

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Fear of the stereotypes I will fall into. Fear of the expectations I will not meet. Fear of the harsh judgment of those around me. 

During this first semester of college, I’ve been a commitment-phobe. Flirt briefly, dabble just a bit — but never long enough to make a lasting impression. Seeing the time trickle away brings waves of anxiety. What have I done with myself? Who am I? 

So bitter, so broken. 

For this new year of 2014, I vow to fall headfirst. Be committed, rather than flaky and undependable. Be passionate and accept the stereotypes that come with whatever I do. Love truly through and through. 

This Is How I’ll Lose You

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I’ll find you because you wear glasses or take pictures or make music or write beautiful words. We’ll talk about theories and futures and the way the world works, and you’ll admire my curiosity, which you’ve been trained to think uncommon in members of my sex.

We’ll argue for sport, and you’ll puff your feathers to show me how impressive and intelligent and savvy you are. I’ll laugh at your jokes, and you’ll think how great it is that someone finally gets you. You’ll think how rare it is to make a connection like this. You won’t tell me if that intimidates you.

I’ll think how much like the others you are, but I’ll be charmed nonetheless.
You’ll take me to bed, and you’ll find my intensity translates. You’ll be both shocked and unsurprised, and you’ll never admit to intimidation. I’ll worry you’re not enough, but I’ll never say a…

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4 Things We Pursue That Are Pretty Much Guaranteed To Make Us Unhappy

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Everyone wants to be happier, but no one thinks to ask how. We assume we know what we need to be doing. After all we’ve seen the movies. We watch the Academy Awards. We’ve seen the smiling faces of our almost certainly more fulfilled friends on Facebook. But it’s all a trick. All the things we’ve been conditioned to think will finally bestow happiness upon as are empty. Take, for example . . .

Prestige (aka the esteem of others).

Ah, prestige. The desire to feel important.

It is a fundamental driver of nearly all human action.

But it does not satisfy.

Not in itself at least. That longing to be important is totally dependent on the opinion of others. And as long as your well being hangs on the whim of someone’s opinion, you’ll never be secure. You’ll need constant reassurance of your status. Because your self-worth doesn’t come from things…

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Sketchnote: Simon Sinek on how great leaders inspire action

Balanced Action

Simon Sinek

The best way to invite others to follow you is to share your beliefs

The last couple of weeks at work we spent trying to persuade our superiors to let us start an initiative to transform our business and enrich our jobs. “So what exactly are you trying to do?” they kept asking again and again. “How is this going to work?”

Unable to come up with a convincing answer they could all equally accept, we were feeling stuck.

On the train ride home I remembered Simon Sinek’s great TED talk and realized, that we had been telling the wrong story. It was more important to talk about WHY we were pushing in this direction, instead of focusing on WHAT we were trying to achieve.

By sharing our beliefs everything important would be said. If we could agree on the WHY, the HOW and WHAT would unfold over time.

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Something I’ve learned the hard way…

Your parents aren’t always right

As much as you want to completely depend on their word and blindly, loyally, faithfully follow exactly what they say — it just isn’t always going to turn out the way they say it will and the way you want it to. They aren’t always correct. What they say is not law. 

The hardest part of this maturation process is walking that line — taking into consideration of what they say and respecting their opinion, while discerning what is truly best for you and what you should do. 

Making decisions right now is just so difficult when I try to follow exactly what my parents say and what the reality of the situation is. Every time, I have to pull myself back and reexamine. That’s probably one of the greatest things I’ve taken out of my experience so far in my first semester of college. You have to take everything into perspective. 

I pray that I may be able to please my parents, please myself, but most of all, please the Lord.