The Heaving Vastnesses of Unbroken Blue

Perpetual sadness.

This is such an interesting state — one of unknowing, perhaps comparable to purgatory.

So easy to fake happiness, slap a smile on and laugh without feeling joy.

Knowing very well that you could easily solve your problem by just putting in a little more effort — reaching out to make new friends, connecting with your old friends, studying a little harder, or just letting loose a little. But just choosing not to.

Perhaps this is just a vain period of self-pity. Perhaps this is a phase and I just need to be left alone to gather my thoughts.

Or perhaps this is a tiredness and wearing of the soul. Perhaps I’ve become too burned out by the concerns of this Earth.

The solution to my problems is so obvious, sitting right before my eyes…

so why don’t I just want to reach out and take it?

 

Why do we punish ourselves when we know there’s a much easier path to travel?

Why do we do this to ourselves?

“Confronting the lie: God won’t give you more than you can handle” by Nate Pyle

 

Confronting the lie: God won’t give you more than you can handle

March 11, 2013 — 997 Comments

The past three weeks have been the most difficult I have ever gone through.  These three weeks have been filled with illness, the terrible-three’s (the terrible-two’s are an out-and-out lie), a friend suffering the consequence of sin, a ministry I am a part of reeling in confusion and pain, having to cancel a trip to celebrate my parents 60th birthdays, and our family experiencing the emotional roller-coaster of finding out we were pregnant only to be told the pregnancy was ectopic and could be life-threatening to my wife if it was not ended.

Needless to say, I have had enough.

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I know I am not alone.  As trying as the last three weeks have been for me, I know some people who have dealt with far more for far longer.  But that doesn’t change the fact that this has been painful for me and my wife.  In the face of all this, I can honestly say I feel no pressure to be the “pastor” and have the answer for this.  Honestly, even as a pastor, I have no answer for this.  My questions before God about the reality of what my family has experienced over the last three weeks are the exact same questions anyone would ask.

Why?
Why not step in?
Why not act?
Why wouldn’t you make it right?
Why couldn’t you part the clouds and provide a moment for us to catch our breath?
Why everything at once?
Why?

Not only am I okay asking those questions, but I think there is something holy and sacred in being courageous enough to ask them.  Don’t be fooled, those questions are only to be asked by the courageous.  It is easy to spout trite Christian platitudes designed to make people feel better with bumper-sticker theology.  But insipid axioms do little in the face of the actual brokenness of the world.  It is more courageous to ask the hard questions of God and wait for him to answer than it is to find hope on the side of coffee mug.  Asking those questions requires courage because, in the end, it is very likely they will not be answered.

Ultimately, it isn’t about the questions.  Behind the questions is a deep current of emotion threatening to overtake us.  But too often, when the fracture in the universe threatens to swallow us up in pain we fail to get fully present to our emotions.  In those moments I think we do one of two things.  Either we ask the questions but never investigate what emotion is driving those questions, or we resort to some banal Christian slogan to try and make us feel better.

This experience forced me to look at one such statement that gets spouted often when people go through a lot:  God won’t give you more than you can handle.  If I may be so bold, let’s just call that what it is:

Bullshit.

Tell that to a survivor of Auschwitz.
Tell it to the man who lost his wife and child in a car accident.
Tell it to the girl whose innocence was robbed from her.
Tell it to the person crushed under the weight of depression and anxiety.
Tell it to the kids who just learned their parent has a terminal illness.

Limp, anemic sentiments will not stand in the face of a world that is not as it should be.

Now that I have said how I feel, let me back up this argument with some actual Biblical evidence.  This particular statement, that “God won’t give you more than you can handle,” isn’t even in the Bible.  There is a statement that sounds like it.  1 Corinthians 10:13 says, “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to humankind.  And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.”  But notice that verse is about temptation.  That’s it.  You won’t be tempted beyond what you can stand up against.  This text is not saying that you will not experience more than you can bear.  That idea just isn’t Biblical.  If anything the exact opposite is true.  Look at this text.

For we do not want you to be ignorant, brothers and sisters, of the affliction we experienced in Asia. For we were so utterly burdened beyond our strength that we despaired of life itself. Indeed, we felt that we had received the sentence of death. But that was to make us rely not on ourselves but on God who raises the dead (2 Cor 1:8,9, emphasis mine).

Later, Paul will write it is when he is weak that the strength of Christ is seen.  In other words, when we can’t do it any longer.  When we are fed up.  When it has become too much.  When we have nothing left.  When we are empty.  When it is beyond our capability to deal with it.  Then, in that moment, the strength of the God of resurrection will be seen.  Until we get to that point, we rely on ourselves thinking we can handle it and take care of the problem.

Don’t hear me saying I am rejoicing because of the last couple of weeks.  I am not.  Not once have I danced around our house shouting, “Yeah suffering!”  Instead, in the midst of pain and hurt, I am actively expecting God to do something.  I don’t know what.  I don’t know when.  But I am expecting the God of resurrection to heal us.  I am expecting God to restore us.  I am expecting him to redeem this situation.  I am expecting him to do this and so I will be actively looking and waiting for him to do something.  I believe expectant waiting can only happen when we exchange our feeble platitudes for an authentic faith that engages God with the full brunt of our emotion and pain.  Only then can salvation been seen.

But that exchange takes courage.

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Excelsior!

In the wee hours of the night (morning?) when I should be slaving away at my Chemistry, Economics, and English research presentation, my mind can’t help but wander. In fact, I’ve just noticed that my blog has been quite pessimistic and morose, and that I’ve already broken my very first promise (oops!).

So, let me take this time now to fill in those gaps. For every day I didn’t write, I will name a highlight or just something that made me happy this week! Huzzah!

1. My family came down to visit me at school for the first time since school has started. Yes, I cried when I saw them get out of the car and when we hugged (just like I had fantasized!). Distance really does make the heart grow fonder. Usually my parents drive me crazy by their incessant lectures and overenthusiastic participation, but when I saw them after 9 long weeks, it really hit me. They’re always so loving and giving, and I really do appreciate having them in my life. I can never get over how blessed I am to live this amazing life and how much they’ve sacrificed for me, and that keeps me humble.

2. My relationship with God is growing. Previously, I found that there are holes in my faith and that my foundation was shaky. So, of course, God stepped in, tore everything down, and now He is building an even stronger foundation. He’s building my faith back up again! What better news could you hear? Praise the Lord.

3. I’m finding serenity and confidence in Me. I love Me, but I also know that I can be a better Me. That sense of self-awareness pushes me to work harder and be better. Yay!

4. Awesome friends and awesome people surround me. Can’t wait to get to know these people even better!

Now that I’ve spent a good 15 minutes procrastinating, I should be getting back to my work. Hopefully, I’ll be able to go to bed at 3:00 AM tonight? Just in time for 5 1/2 hours of sleep. Who knows! Dat college life.

We Were Made to Be Courageous

When the real you doesn’t match up with the ideal you, that’s when dissatisfaction and unhappiness arises.

You can either wallow in self-pity, attempt to ignore the issue at all costs, substitute it in vain, or you can face it head on, take action, and reach for those dreams.

I’ve come to terms with the fact that life is never going to be easy, and if you want something, you have to work for it. It’s not going to be handed to you.

It’s such a simple idea, so simple to the point where I feel ridiculous even saying it. But sometimes, we just need to be reminded of it. Don’t be afraid. Don’t let fear take a hold of you. Chase that horizon. Become that person you want to be. Be bold. Be brave. Be strong.

Be the best you you can be.

 

P.S. I realize this sounds didactic, but this is actually me trying to whip myself back into shape. Hopefully, it will help any readers (?) out there too!